The Science of Dressing Impeccably

Monday, October 28th, 2013

“Dress shabbily and they remember the dress;

Dress impeccably and they remember the woman.”

~ Coco Channel

 

So many people believe dressing impeccably is an art and it’s something you’re born knowing.  They also believe you have to have that perfect body which is based on what they see in fashion magazines.  Finally, they believe you have to have a lot of money to spend on the clothes, accessories, hair, makeup, etc.

 

I’m here to tell you that anyone can dress impeccably, any body shape, size and income level.  You can acquire this knowledge in a very scientific way and it can be very easily applied.

 

Before we get into the scientific method there are a few facts I want you to know.  First, the fashion industry uses women (or girls) who are tall and slender.  Most women (or girls) have the body type where the shoulders, waist, and hips are visually appear the same.  This body type is used because most clothing styles and design detail look great on their body type.

 

Secondly, most fashion designers design for their muse.  Ralph Lauren’s muse is his wife who is slender with a rectangular body (shoulders, waist and hips visually appear the same).  Dona Karen’s muse is herself with a more curvy body.

 

Finally, the body type most prevalent among woman is pear-shaped or hippy, and short waisted.  This body shape is most suitable to carry and have babies.  Not every style of clothes looks good on this body shape.

 

So the question is how do you know what clothes enhance your body?

 

When looking at clothes one needs to consider the following fundamentals;

  • Clothes silhouette
  • Inside lines (shape of collar, pockets cuff, prints to name a few)
  • Color
  • Placement of horizontal lines
  • Placement of vertical lines
  • Scale of prints and design detail

 

To determine what clothing fundamentals enhance your body, you need to consider five different body elements:

  • Body shape
  • Face shape
  • Color of skin, hair and eyes
  • Body proportion
  • Body frame size

 

Understanding your body shape gives you clues to the overall shape of the clothes best suited to you, as well as the placement of lines, both horizontal and vertical.

Your face shape clues you in to the best shapes for design details (collars, lapels, and pockets), as well as those of your prints and accessories.

Your coloring (skin, hair and eyes) determines the color of your clothing and accessories.  In addition, the difference in color-intensity between your skin, hair and eyes is one of three components used to determine the appropriate scale for your accessories and prints.  Your body proportion and body frame size also give you clues regarding the scale of your accessories and prints.

Ultimately, when the shape, color and scale of your clothing and accessories fit your body, you come alive.  You look impeccable. You exude youth, health and energy, and leave a lasting impression, drawing people to you and lending gravity to what you say.

 

Keep reading and studying this blog and the information in this website to learn what fundamentals work best for you and your body.

Perseverance

Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013

The title of this entry is Perseverance.  It is a quality I believe everyone needs to cultivate so they can achieve their vision of life.  The dictionary defines perseverance as “steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.”  The universe puts road blocks in the way to build strength in character.

 

I have had road blocks in many areas of my life.  Many of them I overcame while others I am still working on.  In my heart I knew I had to obtain my vision so I kept putting one foot in front of the other.  Thanks to the road blocks I overcame, life has forever changed for the better and it was worth every step.

 

An example of my perseverance is pursuing my vision of a particular business opportunity.  I started pursuing it last year and the main reason I stopped making posts to this blog.  I have not given up on it.  I am working different angles until it becomes reality or that vision changes.  As a result I am posting in this blog again.

 

I once heard someone say that road blocks are put there to see how determined you are to achieve your vision/dreams and help you grow into the person you need to be with the right mental attitude and skill set.  What mental attitudes and skills do you need to possess to obtain your vision/dreams?

 

Are you a person who keeps putting one foot in front of the other or are you a person who gives up.  If you held on to your vision or dreams and kept putting one foot in front of the other, Congratulations!!  If you have given up on your vision/dreams, get them out or create new ones.  Start by putting one foot in front of the other and commit to taking another step forward every day.  Celebrate every step you make.  Step by step your vision/dreams will become reality.

How Do You Know Your Personal Brand is Working?

Friday, April 27th, 2012

When I tell people I coach individuals to create a competitive edge by honing their personal brand and refining their first impression, I usually get one of two responses:

  • “What you wear doesn’t really matter; everyone dresses business casual these days.”
  • “I know so many people who need your help, but I don’t need any help because I look fine.”

My response to this is: how do you know?  How do you know what you wear doesn’t matter — if your personal brand is working for you or against you?

I have been studying highly successful individuals since the early 1990’s.  They all have three things in common:

  1. They take 100% responsibility for their actions and life.
  2. They create duplicable systems.
  3. They are always fine tuning and honing these systems to make them better and better.  The Japanese call this Kaizen – continuous improvement.

Tyra Banks said, “I’m competing with myself.  I always try to push past my borders.”

Vadim Kotelnikov (inventor, innovator, author, and entrepreneur) said, “Average ones compete with others.  Great ones compete with themselves.”

Do you know if your personal brand and first impression supports or hinders you and your goals?  The best way to find out is to test them.

First let’s look at your current results: are your ideas being implemented on a regular basis, are you getting all the promotions you have expected, are you consistently the top salesperson, and do you have more clients than you are able to serve?  If you answered yes to any of these questions then you’re probably very close to being right on for your first impression.  If not, then you have some refining and honing to do.

To start your test you need to establish a base line.  Throughout your day be aware of how people react and treat you: your clients, customers, superiors, colleagues, sales people, and people on the street.  Anyone and everyone you meet.  Are they reacting and treating you the way you expect?  If not, how are they treating you?

Then go to my website and study the five steps (remember the last step is testing).  I have a ton of information in my website.  You can also hire me to help you.  Keep honing and refining until you get the reaction you want on a consistent basis.

Never stop testing.  You want to make sure the reaction to your personal brand and first impression is always exactly what you want.

What is Personal Branding?

Friday, April 13th, 2012

You may ask, “What is a personal brand and why do I need one?”

Jobsearch.about.com defines personal branding as, “Your total perceived value, relative to competitors, as viewed by your audience.”  They further inform that this perceived value is created through personal appearance, personality, competencies and differentiators.

To be competitive in today’s world you need to think of your services as a product, whether you work for yourself or for someone else.  Unlike in our parent’s day, in today’s job market a person changes jobs between 10 and 15 times throughout the lifespan of their career.  So in a very real way, in order to move forward, you need to become a salesperson of yourself — adept at selling your services and creating ways to differentiate yourself from your competition.

This is not a new idea.  Napoleon Hill talked about it in his book Think and Grow Rich.  In Chapter 6, Organized Planning, Planning the Sale of Services, he states, “It should be encouraging to know that practically all the great fortunes began in the form of compensation for personal services, or from the sale of IDEAS.”

In today’s competitive world, to be seen you need to set your services and/or ideas apart from the competition.  You do this by mindfully creating a brand (through appearance, personality and energy) which reflects who you are, from the core.

I am not talking about creating a false facade.  Your brand should reflect who you are and what your abilities are.  Your goal is show the people in your particular world who you are and what you represent without saying a word.  By doing this, they will be more open to what you have to say.

You already have a personal brand.  The $64,000 question is, is it one that reflects your internal self, your external self and the world in which you move?

ImageWithJoy.com is all about helping you create a competitive edge by honing your personal brand and refining your first impression.  Study my website to hone your perfect personal brand, one that serves you best in your career.

I challenge you to create a personal brand which reflects your abilities and your core self.

If you have any questions throughout the process, feel free to ask me through the comment section of the blog.

Scrap the Suit?

Thursday, March 8th, 2012

A couple of weeks ago I read an article from the online daily magazine Little Pink Book.com entitled Scrap the Suit?  It states, “Today’s career women are breaking the rules of what constitutes a serious business wardrobe – and still being taken seriously.”  This article was not Little Pink Book.com’s first article on this subject, and I have read other online magazine articles with similar themes.

I think these statements really do a disservice to individual women and women as a whole.  As an individual, a woman can lose credibility and authority through her wardrobe choices, hurting her chances of being taken seriously.  Thus her ideas are not heard, sales are not made, and promotions not given.

Yes, women have made great strides in the workforce compared to those in our mother’s and grandmother’s day; however there are still marked inequities.  The continuing wage gap between men and women, and the sadly lacking ratio of women in the executive office vs. women in the workforce highlight these inequities.

For that reason I think it’s safe to argue that this new viewpoint hurts women in general, for as growing numbers of women believe it’s OK not to wear a suit, we, as a group, will lose credibility and authority. As a result, this action will hurt our chances of closing the salary gap and filling more executive offices and boardrooms.

I know there are professions, industries, and companies where this statement is true. But there are just as many work environments in which wearing a suit is mandatory.

How do you know which clothes should be worn to give you the most credibility and authority in your particular work arena? Well, the biggest factor to consider is, what is the world in which you travel?  Very few of us are impervious to the needs and considerations of those around us.  None of us live in a vacuum, and as such we need to learn to take our cues from the world in which we move in order to present ourselves to our best advantage.

People in general have expectations of how others should present themselves given their particular professions, industries and based on individual company cultures. People will open up and hear the message of individuals who present themselves in a manner that matches these expectations.

Look around you.  Within your particular profession, industry, or company identify the most successful individuals (both male and female).  Note how these top-tiered people dress and take your cues from there.  If they are wearing suits, then follow suit.  If they are not, then you know that this symbol of credibility and authority is not needed in your particular arena.

There’s more than one factor to consider when determining the most appropriate work wardrobe.  In general, men are promoted based on their potential, coupled with the image they project, whereas women are promoted based on their actual current abilities, coupled with the image they project.

If the powers-that-be don’t see a woman doing the job in real-time, they’ll be far less likely to be promoted.

Consider this example.  When looking for a new home, there are three types of houses available on the market: those that are move-in ready, those with good bones that need some renovation, and major remodels. In the work-place women often-time need to be move-in ready before they’re considered for promotion, whereas men can have good bones but need some renovation.

To assure that your wardrobe choices support the credibility and authority needed in your particular work arena, study my website to determine your own personal impeccable image and personal brand.  Whether the results include wearing suits or not, you’ll know precisely what needs to be worn in order to create both credibility and authority.

Tool # 2 – Who Does This Belong To?

Friday, February 17th, 2012

In my last blog entry I shared a bit about Dr. Dain Heer’s free video series entitled Being You, Changing the World.  In his first video he talks about a tool called Who does this belong to?  I have to say that this one tool has changed my life by lighting up my thoughts and changing my very thought patterns.

Here’s how it works…

According to Dr. Heer, 98% of our thoughts and feeling do not belong to us.  They belong to the people in our lives: our parents, siblings, teachers, friends, employers, and even the guy who just walked by.  Have you ever been in a good mood, then all of a sudden you find yourself feeling angry, sad or depressed?  According to Dr. Heer,  you could be picking these feelings up from the people around you – even from someone who just walked by or from the guy who passed you in his car.

Dr. Heer suggests that whenever you are feeling heavy and having negative thoughts, ask yourself this question: “Who does this belong to?”  If you feel lighter, you know it’s not your thought or feeling.  He suggests you send it back to the sender.

When I started asking myself this question, I couldn’t believe the internal response I got.  I did feel lighter.  It was like a weight had been lifted from by soul.

In retrospect I found that most of my thoughts came from my parents, teachers and previous employers.  Since using this tool, areas of my life where I previously felt resistance now flow easily.  When I’m in the middle of a project and I start becoming aware of negative thoughts, I ask myself “Who does this belong to?”  And presto! More often than not that thought disappears.  Sometimes, out of habit, the thought can pop back, but when it does, it’s not as loud as it was before.  Eventually, it becomes quieter and quiter, until I can’t hear it any more.

I’m introducing this tool to you today because as you create and refine your personal image and personal brand you will occasionally go outside of your comfort zone.  I found that whenever I go outside of my comfort zone, negative thoughts and feelings pop up.  It’s possible that this might happen to you as well.  When it does, use this tool to determine if the thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing are your own, or just echoes of the thoughts and feelings of other people in your life, be they in the past or present.

Give it a try!  I think you might be pleasantly surprised by the results!

Tool #1 – Does it feel light or heavy?

Thursday, February 9th, 2012

I’m always on the lookout for nuggets of gold – pieces of wisdom found in everything I read, hear or see – and I use these nuggets to help me in some part of my life. My goal is that within my writings you find nuggets of gold that can be used in your life.

How do you determine if an idea, step, processes, etc. is a nugget of gold? While reading my website, articles and blog posts, ask yourself the following question: Does this information make me feel light or heavy? If you feel lighter and brighter, then that particular item is a nugget of gold. If you feel heavy, the idea is one that doesn’t speak to you in particular, and needn’t be considered.

For a better view of how this process works, visit www.drdainheer.com. Once there, you can subscribe to a free video series entitled, “Being You, Changing the World.”
I also recommend asking yourself this question whenever you’re unsure about any decision, or circumstances. I have used it all my life and whenever I follow the path of feeling light I usually made the right decision.

In your journey toward creating and/or refining your personal image and personal brand you will undoubtedly step out of your comfort zone from time to time, and need a bit of guidance in making the best choices. At those times, listen to your emotions and feeling – or as I like to think of it, your own internal GPS. Whenever you feel heavy, that’s a warning not to go in that direction. Conversely, when you feel light, that’s your green light that you’re going in the right direction.

I’d love to hear how this works for you! Use this tool and share with me your experience. Also, tell me what you think of Dr. Dain Heer and his Access Consciousness series. I will be talking about another of his tools in my next blog.

Happy nugget gathering!

Preface

Tuesday, February 7th, 2012

ImageWithJoy.com is all about helping you create your competitive edge in this hyper-competitive world. Presenting yourself in your own unique way shows the world who you are, what you represent and the value you bring. It’s about being the person in the room who dresses impeccably, who exudes confidence and who leaves a lasting impression. This is your competitive edge.

My goal is to be the catalyst that inspires you to start and continue your journey of creating and honing your personal image and personal brand. Everyone’s journey is different. My hope is that you find nuggets of gold within ImageWithJoy.com that inspire you to take action on your journey.

In this blog I will go into more detail about understanding your internal self, your external self and the world in which you move.

Understanding your internal self is more than knowing your value and passions. It’s also understanding your fears, your beliefs and the thoughts that stop you from really knowing and living your true value and purpose. It’s understanding your strengths and weaknesses. It’s totally embracing yourself and knowing that who you are is perfect and that the world would be a lesser place to live in if you didn’t allow yourself to shine.

Understanding your external self is not only having a general knowledge of what clothes, accessories, hair style and make-up look best on you but also why they work for you. The goal is to understand why particular styles work or don’t work so, as fashion changes, you can incorporate only the styles that keep you dressing impeccably. Also, as you continue the journey toward understanding your internal self, your style will change to match this new understanding. Through ImageWithJoy.com, you’ll come to know how to incorporate this new understanding with your evolving style.

And finally, understanding the world in which you move will not only give you a general knowledge of how your clientele needs to see and react to you, it will teach you how to draw people to you – how to show people that you’re a credible person who understands who they are and who has something important to share. By understanding the world in which you move you’ll be better able to provide solutions for your client’s needs.

I look forward to sharing more details on how to create and hone an impeccable personal image and personal brand that’s uniquely your own in the blogs ahead!